Grandchildren are God’s gifts.
Turning over, slowly opening my eyes, there is a light tap on the door.
“Who is it?” I whisper.
“It’s Noah. Will you put Mario on for me?”
“Just a minute,” I answer as I crawl out of bed, grab my robe and then go out to help my grandson. I should feel honored that he comes to me to ask for help, while letting his mom sleep in.
There are at least three things to remember while living with grandchildren:
Maintain your own living space –
Having your own bathroom attached to a bedroom, adds to your privacy. If needed, you can set up a small dorm refrigerator to keep your wine chilled. Add a lounge chair or recliner, a small TV, along with your bed. Depending on the size of your room, you might be able to add in a desk or a small loveseat. If you’re moving in from a bigger apartment or house, you may want to rent a storage unit for the things that won’t fit. Decorate with your favorite colors, pillows, pictures, and add a candle and a vase of flowers (real or artificial). A nice throw rug in the middle of the floor will finish it off.
Create a special area in your room for the grandchildren –
Now that you are living with your grandchildren, you will see them everyday. Make a special area in your room so they will stop in and visit with you. Some ideas might include art supplies, board games, DVD’s, stuffed animals, books to read together, and Legos to build. And if you have a policy in place, that any item that leaves your room must return before bedtime, you’re hopefully not going to lose any game pieces in their own bedrooms.
Keep up with your social calendar, but know theirs too.
Although you’ve moved in to their livelihood, it’s important that you keep up with your own social calendar. Keep your schedule handy to coordinate with theirs, so you’ll still be able to enjoy all of their special events such as performances, sporting events, recitals, etc. They still want you there to cheer them on.
What to do if they’re just visiting?
You can still create a special area for them in your home – with all the things mentioned. And since you’ll have your own kitchen – have a make your own pizza night or decorate Christmas cookies together. Remember you are helping them make lasting memories – ones they will share with their own children some day.