How To Be An Unconditional Friend

A friend loves at all times – Proverbs 17:17

How to be an unconditional friend

     A friend’s love for me was unconditional.

When I was in the 5th grade, I added a few black girls to my list of friends. They were just like me, just a different color. We liked the same things, and sometimes the same boys. In 6th grade, one black girl called me the teacher’s pet and Miss goody, two shoes. I knew she was trying to make me mad, but I’ve never been the fighting type. So I just ignored her. That was the year I realized we were all different, yet we should always try to treat each other the same.

The Lord Looks At The Heart

Some say beauty is only skin deep. In other words, the character of a person is represented by what’s in their heart, soul and mind. When we look beyond the exterior layers of a person, we discover who they are, what they think, and what their dreams and passions are for their life.

We can accept our friends unconditionally, no matter who they are. They may be black, white, Asian, Muslin, or Mexican. Some may identify as LGBTQ. Others may have a drug or alcohol addiciton. A few may be in the hospital, or in jail. Several might have tattoos or body piercings. Some might have lost a limb, be blind, or be deaf. Still others might have been disfigured from birth or from an accident. God has designed and created everyone. Therefore we need to be unconditonal friends to each other.

Remember what the Bible says in I Samuel 16:17 “The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”

In My Father’s House Are Many Rooms

At the end of my street was an apartment building while the rest of the neighborhood was lined with houses. As a child, it didn’t bother me that Jimmy and Jenny lived in the apartments, and Susie and Beth lived in houses. We were kids who loved to play together. After I had grown up, I became aware that my parents didn’t want to live near a trailer park or in view of any run-down homes. I’m sure it had to do with aesthetics, because they knew people who lived in them. But those thoughts rubbed off on me.

When my late husband and I started dating, I was embarrassed to invite my parents over, because not only did he live across the street from a trailer park, but his property was a bit rough looking. Thankfully, they didn’t leave any ill comments with me. Since then, I have learned to let those things go. It’s not up to me to decide where others choose to live. I know some places may only be temporary due to unforseen circumstances. But even it’s a permanent place, it doesn’t mean that person will be bad, poor, or end up in jail.

No matter where you live here on earth, as long as you have a relationship with Jesus, you’ll have a permanent home in heaven.

John 14:2,3 “In my Father’s house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am.”

Whatever You Do, Work At It With All Your Heart

I have called myself a “Jack of all trades”, for I have had many part-time jobs over the years. From being a dishwasher, hostessing, cashier, preschool teacher, flower deliverer, children’s minister, dental assistant, substitute teacher, Uber driver, home-based business consultants, to a writer. I’ve done a little bit of everything, and thankfully, people continue to love and accept me; even when I’m without a job.

There are more than a hundred jobs available for you to do. Some may require you to go to college or a a trade school first. Others learn by “the school of hard knocks.” However you decide to learn, you’ll continue to better yourself by improving your self-worth and self-confidence.  

Your unconditional friends will love you no matter where you work or what kind of job you have. 

Colossians 3:23 “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.”


What does it mean to be an unconditonal friend? What does it mean to you to have an unconditonal friend? Share your comments below.


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About the Author:

My name is Susan W (sue) Corbran. I am a writer, a Creative Memories consultant, a volunteer in Children's Ministry at my church, and an advocate for widows and gay Christians. I love helping people - whether it is by sharing my stories; consulting with others on how to preserve their most precious memories - photos and ways to tell their stories; or helping children learn about God - and for them to know that He loves them, no matter what! I am a Mom and a Grandma. I love to golf, travel, read, and listen to music (and play the piano and guitar, when available - simple songs!). Oh and I love to write - so be sure to read some of my blogs. I am a co-author of the book Emerge: Real Stories of Courage and Truth, An Amazon Best Seller, 2015, along with The Call to Soar, an Amazon Best Seller, 2016. An author of the ebook Five Simple Ways to Love Gay Christians You Need to Know Now, 2017, and other numerous blogs and articles for magazine contests. This year, 2017, I plan to publish a series of books for young adult (ages 9-14) in the genre of Christian Life. I also hope to publish a book of childhood memories (to share with my grandchildren). My hope is that God willl be praised and glorified by my writing for Him.

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